Phillip Van Hooser - Transformational Leadership

I was recently asked my one of my readers, “What advice are you giving to the unemployed or those about to be laid off?”

This is a great, and timely question. My advice to those currently experiencing some measure of professional upheaval in their lives is simple, yet it can be revolutionary. Take this opportunity to step back and reevaluate 1) who you are, 2) where you are, and 3) where you ultimately want to be.

First, who you are. Please don’t get sucked into the emotional abyss that tempts you to define yourself by your current professional woes. The economy, be it good or bad, should not define you. Your employer and the actions that it might be forced to take should not define you. You are the only one that can or should define who you are. Granted this is an unwelcome and somewhat stressful circumstance, but reframe it as an opportunity to take inventory of the unique talents, skills and experiences you possess. Be honest with yourself. What is it that makes you special? Make a list. I’ll bet it’s longer than you expected.

Second, where you are. Sometimes, unwanted and unplanned change can serve as a needed personal and professional jump start. Like it or not, when most of us become comfortable, we tend to relax and stop pushing purposefully toward the future. In other words, we coast. Unexpected change can be a rude awakening, but it also can awaken us to opportunities we would never have seen otherwise. Over the years, I have heard many people say to me that the “shake up at work” or “getting laid off” ended up being the “best thing that ever happened to me.” How can that be? I think the answer resides in my third point.

Third, where you ultimately want to be. Do I believe there is an absolutely perfect job out there for each of us? Call me a dreamer, a hopeless romantic, but, yes I do. In fact, there may be many perfect jobs just waiting for you. Your job is to take that list you made when you reviewing exactly who you are and overlay it with the opportunities that exist around us.

Okay, so what to do today? My advise is that you take the balance of today and feel sorry for yourself. Seriously. Go ahead and get it out of the way. Get a large bag of Cheetos (my vice of choice) and knock yourself out wallowing in your misery. Do it, but do it alone. Don’t drag others into your self-imposed misery. They don’t deserve that and you’re not going to be in this state very long anyway. Then the first thing tomorrow morning begin the process of reshaping the rest of your life, starting with the suggestions I have already offered. Moving purposefully forward trumps staring wistfully backwards every time.

I hope my thoughts on this are helpful.

Phillip Van Hooser
Leadership Expert, Author & Keynote Speaker
phil@vanhooser.com