Phillip Van Hooser - Transformational Leadership

In this video post, I debunk the “leadership lie” that says leaders shouldn’t get close to their people. I also clarify the difference between “managing” vs. “leading” people and explain what “getting close to” followers should really mean for leaders.

The Leadership Lie: Leaders, Don’t Get Close to Your People

Phillip Van Hooser
Leadership Expert, Author & Keynote Speaker
phil@vanhooser.com

As I write this, the Thanksgiving holiday is fast approaching.  Soon Thanksgiving will have passed and our focus will shift to the traditional year-end holidays and related festivities.

But before we rush through the holiday, let’s remember that Thanksgiving is supposed to be a time when we stop to take inventory of the many things for which are thankful.  Our grateful spirit should extend past the obvious - roast turkey, pecan pie and football.  Instead, we should seriously consider the opportunities and blessings that we have received and then acknowledge them for what they truly are.

But do we really?  Past experience has taught that we can be “busy” (a good state for most of us) and then we can be “too busy.”  When we get too busy, often we thoughtlessly ignore the more important things (or people) that deserve recognition for what they are and for what they are worth to us.

Case in point. A few years ago I found myself in one of our western U.S. cities preparing to present a full day leadership program.  I arrived early for the session which was being held in that city’s convention center.  So early, in fact, the entire facility seemed to be deserted.

After familiarizing myself with the room in which I would be working, I took the opportunity to make a quick trip to the men’s room.  As I stepped through the restroom door, the smell hit me.  It was immediately noticeable.  But, it was not the type of smell that many of us have come to expect from public restrooms.  No, instead this aroma could be described as being remarkably “fresh and clean.”

I continued in, only to find that the smell was a positive indicator of more good things to come.  The room was spotless!  Now, don’t misunderstand.  It was not adorned with the expensive marble and tile floor and wall coverings that are often found in some of the showplace hotels.  No, this was a public facility.  Its basic construction was of concrete blocks covered with enamel paint.  Nevertheless, the sinks, counter tops, urinals, toilets, floors and walls were so clean it was impossible not to notice.

As I stood admiring this unexpected phenomenon, I sensed someone’s presence.  In a far corner of the room, I noticed a middle aged man with mop in hand.  Now, I am not the smartest guy around, but I quickly surmised that this gentleman might have something to do with this amazing restroom.  I decided to find out.

“Excuse me, but are you responsibility for cleaning this restroom?”

The man slowly raised his head, while continuing to lean forward on the mop handle.  He looked at me suspiciously.

“Yeah, why?” he responded, with an obvious note of defensiveness in his voice.

“I figured you were.  I just wanted you to know how much I appreciate the clean bathroom.”

The man stared at me in silence for a few seconds, obviously trying to determine my level of sincerity.

“For real?” he finally asked.

“For real” I responded.  “I travel several days a week and end up using other people’s restrooms more than my own.  Too often, they are simply disgusting.  I couldn’t help but notice what a great job you’ve done with this one.  I just wanted you to know that I appreciate it.”

By now, convinced of my sincerity, the man responded by saying something that I will not soon forget.  Looking directly into my eyes, he said, “Thanks, I really appreciate that you noticed.”  Then he added, “Nobody has ever told me that before.”

Once again, I was amazed, but this time for a different reason.  My immediate thought was, “Where is this man’s leader?”

Me, a total stranger, recognizing this man for a job well done was one thing.  But, can you imagine the impact that a similar sentiment would have coming from the lips of his leader?

I encourage you as leaders, during this time of the year when the words “thanks” and “giving” are so commonly heard, to not be so busy that you don’t make the time to publicly acknowledge those followers who, in your heart, you know you are thankful for.

Praise and recognition are two gifts that keep on giving.

Phillip Van Hooser
Leadership Expert, Author & Keynote Speaker
phil@vanhooser.com

In this video post, I share an illustration to show leaders that lying — no matter how innocently — is a costly leadership mistake.

Leaders Who Lie

Phillip Van Hooser
Leadership Expert, Author & Keynote Speaker
phil@vanhooser.com

In this video post, I relate a story that illustrates to leaders that losing their temper is a costly leadership flaw.

Leaders Who Lose Their Temper

Phillip Van Hooser
Leadership Expert, Author & Keynote Speaker
phil@vanhooser.com

Leaders, we’re busy people. We have lots of responsibilities and objectives to accomplish every day. Here’s one thing we can do that will exponentially improve our relationships with employees and provide us with valuable information and insights for doing our jobs.

Learn to listen. Actively listen. Stop what you’re doing when people start to communicate with you and look at them, look them right in the eye. I know the challenges, many of us pride ourselves on being multi-taskers, we can use electronic equipment, we can walk, we can talk, we can fill out paperwork, we can do any number of things all while supposedly listening to the people speaking to us. I’m not even going to challenge the fact that you might be able to do that well, because there are good multi-taskers out there. But it really makes very little difference if you’re good at it or not. The message that we send to the person speaking to us—that we’re hopefully listening to, as we go about these multi-tasking activities—the message that we send to them is that they don’t have our attention and we’re not fully focused on them and from a leader/follower relationship that can be. . .well, that can be very bad.

What I’m encouraging you to do is that the next person that walks up to you and begins talking to you, you stop. You stop whatever you’re doing. You square yourself up and you look right at the person and you continue to look at them for the duration of whatever they’re communicating. You listen to them for the next twenty seconds, the next two minutes, the next twenty minutes, as the case might be, by looking squarely at them.

When you do this, people are going to respond to you differently because they know you’re now listening and listening with effectiveness. And from a leader/follower relationship that can be. . .well, that can be very, very good!

Phillip Van Hooser
Leadership Expert, Author & Keynote Speaker
phil@vanhooser.com

For more tips on communicating for leaders, check out this video segment.

How many times in your role as leader have you experienced a clashing of attitudes or ideas with one of your followers or even another employee? How often are you called in to mediate or resolve situations where people just don’t see eye to eye on an issue? It happens frequently, doesn’t it? And if you’re like most people, you find these situations uncomfortable and full of emotional minefields.

As leaders, we recognize that problems like these need to be addressed, but so many of us hate and therefore avoid the confrontation we know needs to take place. We say things like, “this will only make matters worse.” “I’m not sure I can control my emotions.” “Maybe if I give it some time, the issue will resolve itself.” Do any of these sound familiar? Probably so. Unfortunately, it is at best, wishful thinking.

Knowing how to successfully manage confrontation is a skill that all leaders need in their toolkit. If you’ve been avoiding confrontation for fear of doing more harm than good, consider equipping yourself with these techniques for managing the situation effectively.

1.  Prepare yourself in advance. Clearly determine the cause for the confrontation. Are you addressing a performance issue, an unacceptable attitude or perhaps a safety issue? Also determine the purpose or the goal for the confrontation. What do you want the confrontation to achieve? How do you want to be perceived after the confrontation? With these answers in mind, it will be easier to stay on target during the confrontation.

2.  Do not procrastinate if a confrontation is necessary. Many leaders try to convince themselves that the problem with work itself out or dissipate if left alone. Putting off what needs to be addressed allows more time for emotions to grow and frustrations to fester. The reality is that bad news does not get better with time.

3.  Avoid extreme emotional involvement. Never initiate a confrontation when you are emotionally charged. This is difficult, but that is why preparing yourself in advance is so important. 

4.  Choose carefully the time and place for the confrontation. Go behind closed doors if possible. Confrontation in front of an audience invites embarrassment and offers undue opportunities for “emotional performances.”  Consider timing the confrontation at the end of the work day. This gives the other person an easy exit for cooling off and considering the issue.

5.  Work to determine the other person’s driving needs. Try to evaluate the issue from their vantage point.

6.  Willing accept some measure of responsibility for the situation - admit fault if you are to blame in part or in total.

7.  Allow the other person time to vent. Remember, you have had the advantage of sorting through your emotions before initiating this confrontation. Give the other person the same opportunity.

8.  Zero in on the problem, not the person. Positive confrontation focuses on the problem. Negative confrontation focuses on the person. Frame the conversation in terms of specific expectations for future performance. Encourage feedback regarding alternative solutions or approaches for managing the issue.

You may not find a solution immediately. You may never completely agree on the issue. But a leader’s responsibility is to address difficult issues and ensure steps are taken to work toward a mutually agreeable solution. It’s hard work - great leaders can’t avoid that.

Phillip Van Hooser
Leadership Expert, Author & Keynote Speaker
phil@vanhooser.com

Let’s get one thing straight. There are some very conscientious leaders out there who are working really hard to get this leadership thing right. But, as we know, it’s not always easy. And unfortunately, this leadership gig doesn’t come with a step-by-step manual.

Following a recent on-site client engagement, one of the program participants followed up with a very interesting question, wrapped around a less than enviable situation. It’s one that could be encountered by any leader at any time. It involved dealing with performance issues. Here is the question I received:

Q: Phil, have you ever had to address performance issues with an employee after they have just experienced a traumatic event, for example, a death in the family? In your program, one of the barriers to communication that you identified was the working environment. And you specifically mentioned timing. Where does compassion for the individual’s circumstances enter into the equation? Should I wait for some better time to address the performance issues?

Sooner or later, leaders are certain to experience situations with no clear cut answer. Unfortunately, not everything a leader must deal with presents itself as being black or white. The situation outlined in this question clearly falls into one of those dreaded gray areas.

First, I am quick to counsel leaders to be sensitive to the personal needs of their employees and followers. To do less can easily, and unnecessarily, create frustration and resentment that is harbored by the employee for months, possibly years, to come. Leaders should make every practical accommodation to help the individual in question work through their personal difficulties in order to quickly return to their expected level of performance.

That being said, we can not always pick the perfect time as it relates to addressing critical issues with our followers. Pressing performance issues can not, and should not, be ignored. To do so creates the possibility of putting the entire organization, its customers, employees and other stakeholders in a compromising position — a risk not of their own making. As a recognized leader of the organization, it is our responsibility to take the necessary steps to deal with unsatisfactory performance whenever and wherever we might find it.

In situations like the one described in this question, my suggestion is to directly approach the individual concerning the performance issue/s in question. Do not approach in an accusatory manner. Instead, be straightforward in identifying the problem at hand and then move the conversation as quickly as possible to the problem solving mode. While searching for problem resolutions, the employee’s current personal difficulties may or may not be factored into the equation. Each situation will have to be considered on its own merit. But there should be no question that the ultimate goal and expectation is to correct the performance issue that is being addressed. Working together to find a mutually acceptable solution should help the individual bear his/her emotional burden.

While to some the answer might seem to be “wait for the right time - a better time.” My answer calls us to remember this — bad news does not get better with time.

Phillip Van Hooser
Leadership Expert, Author & Keynote Speaker
phil@vanhooser.com

In the “Quick Vote” poll on CNN.com yesterday, the question posed was this: “Do You Trust Your Boss?” The poll is admittedly not scientific. But so far, 171,000 plus people have responded and the results say a lot about trust in leadership. 42% of those responding say they trust their boss. 41% say they don’t. 16% indicate they don’t have a boss — possibly trust issues play into this number as well.

For those in leadership positions, most recognize that one of the key elements of the leadership equation is the issue of trust. We also recognize that trust, like respect, does not automatically come with the leadership positions we occupy. Trust must be earned. We earn it from those we desire to lead. But how? I believe there are at least three basic steps involved in establishing and earning trust.

Step 1: Take responsibility! Without question this is the most important aspect in earning trust, and yet, it is often the most overlooked. We are personally impressed by leaders who, in practice, take a little bit more than their share of the blame and a little bit less than their share of the credit. Too often though, human nature leads us to do just the opposite — to take a little bit more than our share of the credit and a little bit less than our share of the blame. Remember, the buck stops where? With the leader, that’s where!

Step 2: Level with your followers. To be a trusted leader requires us to “fess up” regularly. I have a theory about such things. It can be stated this way: We tend to forgive that which we can imagine ourselves having done. We have difficulty forgiving that which we can’t imagine ourselves doing. In other words, followers will accept the fact that you occasionally make mistakes — we all do. On the other hand, they cannot or will not forgive mistakes that their leader is unwilling to admit and take responsibility for. Why? Because they can’t imagine (or stomach) an unwillingness to admit mistakes that are already obvious to everyone.

Step 3: Share your feelings. If we are going to take responsibility and level with our followers, the next obvious step is honest, open communications with them. But please be careful. I encourage you to share your emotions, don’t show them! Don’t assume that your followers can read your mind as to what you are thinking and feeling. They can’t and they shouldn’t be expected to. You are their leader — lead! Step out of your comfort zones and tell your people about the emotions you are experiencing - positive and negative.

These three steps will quickly earn you the reputation as someone that can be trusted. After all, what better poll is there for leaders than that?

Phillip Van Hooser
Leadership Expert, Author & Keynote Speaker
phil@vanhooser.com

Building the leadership bench strength of your organization requires a steady supply of leadership talent. Looking within the organization, managers and supervisors should consider opportunities to prepare those around them for ever more challenging leadership roles. That said how do you take these high potential candidates and move them forward to leadership success?

Consider the following progression for empowering employees. The assumption here is that the supervisor is continuously testing and evaluating each individual employee to determine what level of empowerment he or she is capable of assuming successfully on behalf of the organization. The supervisor or manage will ultimately decide the actual readiness of the individual for further empowerment and at what specific level.

Level 1:
You (the employee) research an assigned activity; you report what you have learned or discovered; but I (the supervisor) will decide what action is to be taken.

This is the most basic level of empowerment. It is used to determine a baseline for how an individual thinks, prepares, works and communicates. It is most commonly used in evaluating the actual skills of new employees or newly transferred employees. If specific flaws or shortcomings are identified, specific plans for further training and development should be undertaken. If it is determined that the individual meets and exceeds expectations in this area, then the next level of empowerment should be considered. Because of the supervisor’s stated intent to make the final decision, there is no relevant risk assumed by the employee at this stage.

Level 2:
You research an assigned activity; you report the alternative actions/options that are available; you suggest one for implementation; but I will decide what action is to be taken.

Here you are evaluating the mental dexterity and awareness of various decision making options and how relevant or irrelevant they might be for the organization’s specific purposes and intents. As before, there continues to be no relevant risk to the employee since the supervisor has reserved the right to make the decision. If the employee is determined to be ready, the next step in the process is assigned.

Level 3:
You research an assigned activity; you report what you intend to do; but don’t act without my approval.

Notice there is a marked increase in the expectation of performance on the part of the employee. This is the first level at which the employee assumes some specific level of risk. However, the supervisor has continued to maintain some level of “institutional control” by making sure s/he is comfortable with the communicated actions. In each of these first three levels of empowerment, continuing one-on-one, face-to-face communication and the conversations that need to take place are absolutely critical. If the employee is determined to be ready, the next step in the process is assigned.

Level 4:
You research an assigned activity; you report what you intend to do; go ahead and do it unless I say “no.”

By this point in the process, the trust level has clearly increased between both parties. The subordinate has earned the right to move to this level of empowerment based on an understanding of the goals and objectives of the organization and his or her proven performance and identified ability to meet those goals and objectives. Communication is still important at this level, but the reins of decision making responsibility are now being passed from the supervisor to the subordinate.

Level 5:
You research an assigned activity; you take the action you deem appropriate; report what you did.

Subordinates are working independently of their supervisor, with the supervisor’s full knowledge and confidence based on the subordinate’s past proven ability and successes. The unencumbered performance of the subordinate, in turn, frees the supervisor to attend to other pressing issues.

Level 6:
You research an assigned activity; you take the action you deem appropriate; no further communication is required.

This is the highest level of empowerment. It is rarely earned and rarely granted–and then only to the best, most tested and most trusted subordinates. With this level, both supervisor and subordinate share the risk of the empowered actions taken.

A few important observations to remember:

This is not an overnight process. It requires vigilant communication, observation, evaluation and training. As previously discussed, empowerment is preceded and supported by significant and on-going coaching and counseling activities. This is not a “one-size-fits-all” process. It requires customized activities for individual employees who may or may not accept empowerment in the same way or at the same rate as another employee. Appropriate empowerment levels are also dependent on individual jobs. In other words, a single employee may be at a Level 5 empowerment level for one task and the same employee at a Level 2 empowerment level for a different task.

Creating a continuous flow of leadership talent from within our organizations can happen and happen effectively when those of us in leadership positions are willing to share our power with those individuals who demonstrate they are worthy of the challenge.

Phillip Van Hooser
Leadership Expert, Author & Keynote Speaker
phil@vanhooser.com

When considering ways to enhance leadership, positive characteristics like honesty, integrity, vision and courage are usually addressed. However, we also need to focus on insidious personal habits which, unwittingly, chip away at the very foundation of our influence. One such leadership cancer is profanity.

Profanity is a tough issue to address. Our society passionately embraces the constitutionally protected freedoms of speech and public expression. While at lunch recently, I was seated next to a young man. Sadly, I was not terribly surprised when he opened his mouth and vulgarities spewed forth. He spoke loudly. Men, women and children (all present) could easily hear. But, he was not angry. Frankly, he seemed comfortable - at easy with this manner of communication. That made me uncomfortable.

Did I confront him? No. I must admit, there was a part of me that wanted to say, “Hey, buddy, don’t you get it? Don’t you realize that you’re driving people away with your words?” But I resisted. Why? Besides the possibility of an almost certain public confrontation, today, when someone dares question the appropriateness of such boorish public behavior, the confronter is too often labeled prudish, followed by heated accusations of perceived censorship. For the record, I am against limiting individual freedoms. However, I am for common sense applications of the freedoms we enjoy. I believe that just because we can do or say something doesn’t necessarily mean we should.

Am I saying I’ve never uttered an inappropriate comment? Absolutely not! The truth is I learned to “cuss” in fifth grade. I’m not proud of that fact. Such behavior was certainly not encouraged by my parents, teachers, coaches or other influential adults. But that didn’t stop me. Sadly, stringing together words I often couldn’t even define made me feel more in control, more grown up, more of a man.

As the years went by, I became bolder with my use of profanity. Over time, my cursing became a habit. A behavior requiring no thought. As a manager in the workplace, I believed profanity helped emphasize and drive home important points, thus making me more effective. My conversations became so sprinkled with expletives that, eventually, I failed to even recognize them as profanity. To me, it was just harmless “shop talk.” I never paused to consider what others might think of it.

So why this crusade against profanity by professionals? I now recognize that when one uses profanity, at least 25-50% of the people who hear it are offended. They may not say so publicly, but they are. You don’t believe me? Take a little poll of the folks you work with. Simply ask how many of them enjoy hearing others curse on the job vs. how many would prefer to be shielded from profanity altogether. The results may surprise you.

But, I learned the hard way. No one had ever said to me, “Phil, I think you have great leadership potential. Great opportunities are out there if you would just curse more!” However, one day, early in my management career, a trusted mentor pulled me aside to say, “Phil, I think you have great leadership potential. I believe great opportunities are out there for you. But, do you realize your cursing is limiting your potential? You really can’t afford to lose people’s respect.”

The leadership curse is not really the act of cursing at all. The leadership curse rests in not fully recognizing the tremendous effect our words, deeds and behaviors have on others.

Phillip Van Hooser
Leadership Expert, Author & Keynote Speaker
phil@vanhooser.com